Woman’s Boyfriend Cheats on Her With Her Best Friend, Three Years Later Tries to Recruit Her Into the Wedding Party After Going No Contact: ‘Congratulations. No, thank you’

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Lana DeGaetano • "Show me to me please."
Oct 9, 2024 10:00 PM EDT

Finding out that the two people you trusted most betrayed you is heartbreaking. To the ladies who have been here before: you got through it, and you will always come out better because of it. Those who betray us have a funny way of repeating their bad habits. For relationships that bloom out of infidelity—well, you usually lose 'em how you got 'em. Nothing's better than succeeding and getting ahead in life while watching the dumpster fire that their next relationship becomes.

The woman in this story let go of the anger she felt when her boyfriend cheated on her with her best friend. They broke up, she cut contact with her BFF, and all is well with her now. She moved to a new town, got a great job, and is overall doing amazing. A week ago, the woman not only received an invitation to her ex-boyfriend and former best friend's wedding but was asked by the former best friend herself to join the wedding party. Many people in her life have been badgering her to go, but the woman cannot believe that folks expect her to celebrate a "forbidden" love that scorned her. Scroll to read the full story.

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    Even my mom called me asking if I was going and when I said no, she sounded disappointed but she didn't push it. This is all just quite weird to me. Why would you want your ex-girlfriend/ex- best friend, the girl you cheated on, to be part of your wedding party?
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    My (25F) ex-boyfriend (27M) left me for my best friend (25F) and now they want me to be part of their wedding party. Any advice?
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    3 years ago, Josh, my boyfriend of about 1.5 years, broke up with me because he had feelings for Ana, my best friend. We hung out a lot and they said that they eventually developed feelings for one another. They admitted that Josh had been cheating on me. They made a fool out of me. They
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    made me think that everything was okay when it was really not. If they admitted it at that time, I would have tried to be understanding and tried to support them, but they chose to lie. So I cut them both off. I focused on school and found a
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    job with a good income. Josh and Ana tried to reach out to me at first, telling me that they still wanted to be friends but I blocked them. Now, I am living in the town next to our hometown. I got a
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    wonderful job opportunity so I moved, but I liked that I was still close enough to visit my parents and other relatives. About a month ago, I heard about their wedding from a common friend. It didn't really bother me anymore, so I just went on with my life.
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    A week ago, I received a message from Ana, telling me that she and Josh were getting married and that they would like me to be a part of the wedding party. I replied "Congratulations. No, thank you." I had no feelings for Josh anymore and I'm even seeing someone else, but I don't
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    want to celebrate the wedding of two people who betrayed me. They were insistent. Josh also messaged me via a different number. Some of my friends also tried to convince me to come to the wedding. I firmly said no. Even my mom called me asking if
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    Even my mom called me asking if I was going and when I said no, she sounded disappointed but she didn't push it. This is all just quite weird to me. Why would you want your ex-girlfriend/ex- best friend, the girl you cheated on, to be part of your wedding party?
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    The day before yesterday, Ana's parents called me, telling me that they missed me and really hope I could go to the wedding. I firmly said that I would not be going. Her mom berated me, saying that I should let bygones be bygones and that I should be happy for her
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    daughter. I asked her if I cheated with Ana's boyfriend and then invited her to the wedding, would she convince Ana to go? She had no answer to this and I hung up. This is quite getting out of hand because I'm receiving more than 20-30 calls and texts a day from
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    their friends and family about this wedding. Any advice on how to handle this? Also any insights on why they want me to go to their wedding? I don't think it's normal that they are very insistent. EDIT: Hi! Thank you so much for all the advice, I didn't think this
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    would get so much attention. I just want to clarify a few things that I read about in the comments, though I'm very sorry that I have not yet read all of them. First of all, my mom is NOT going to the wedding, but I THINK she wants to go, that's why she was asking me if I was going. I'm going to talk to her after work.
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    Ana messaged me with a different number. I don't know how she got my number. Also, my hometown is a small town, and most of our friends did know that I was cheated on, that's why this seems so weird to me. I did block the people who were very
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    insistent (including the new numbers of Ana, Josh and Ana's mom.) Also I keep blocking the people that text me about the wedding, but new numbers just keep popping up, which makes it more weird that people are actually making an effort to get new numbers just so I would attend an ex's wedding.
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    I'm gonna talk to a close friend who still lives in my hometown. She hates Ana for what she did to me, and she may know what's going on. That's all for now. Thank you so much for all the advice in the comments and messages!
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    Plus_Data_1099 • 11h ago. They want you at the wedding to help relieve there own guilt they think it will make people think all is forgiven and forgotten when in reality no one will ever trust these two people with there partners or friends ever let them rot and if people go on and on cut contact with them too.
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    SubstantialMai... • 11h ago • They want you at the wedding to rewrite history. They started their relationship in the worst possible way and probably think that if you're at the wedding it legitimises their start. They couldn't possibly have betrayed you if you are at their wedding.
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    Out of interest have you asked them why they are so insistent? Part of me would want to go and ruin their day. Wear red. Tell stories about how they got together. But I'd probably just block them all, they're not worth the effort.
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    • Spoonbills 11h ago • I suspect Ana doesn't have a lot of female friends. No one trusts her around their boyfriends. No one wants to be her bridesmaid. Ana made her bed, now she can lay in it. They'll stop bugging you after the wedding. In the meantime, blooock.
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